Controlling Your Fear vs Fear Controlling You
You were not born to be successful.
You are ordinary, why do you take the chances when you always fail.
You have no life.
… you are not alone!
Remain persistent and focused!
You need to harness your fear and turn it into a source of inner power. Use it as a power source to live you dream …
… harnessed fear will push you to reach your goals.
You want to improve yourself to achieve your goals and inevitable dreams?
You put every possible effort into your journey …
… of success and your personal development.
But then those fears again, always in your way! And standing as another hurdle to overcome …
Where there are goals, there are Fears! You must overcome them to get to the point where you are about to succeed.
So, what is Fear then?
Fear is “an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous …
… likely to cause pain, or a threat.”
Personal development starts from harnessing fears.
It is at that point when one harnesses their fear …
… especially the fear of failure and turn it into success.
This is when they find their inner power and begin on the journey of personal growth. Most of the time, fear is the agent that is holding us back from recognizing our dreams.
It is impossible to succeed at anything while letting fear control your thoughts about it, whether you’re aware of the fact or not.
In fact, Fear and Success are compliments to each other …
… it is up to you to use the first to drive you to the second.
One of the first steps of your personal development is to learn how to harness fear.
To make it happen, let us review some of the common kinds of fear that may hamper your persistence and efforts.
- Fear of Failure
- Fear of Success
- Fear of Rejection
- Fear of Change
- Fear of Public Speaking (#1 fear)
Let’s dive further, let’s look at some facts about Fear.
Public speaking as seen above is the #1 fear…
Glossophobia … Even the word is big and scary! And brings on a fear of it’s own …
… is the most common form of social anxiety disorder (SAD).
Did you know?
Fear has some beneficial facts as well. Let’s take a look.
- Fear is healthy.
- Fear comes in many shades.
- Fear is not as automatic as you think.
- You don’t need to be in danger to feel scared.
- The more scared you feel; the scarier things will seem.
- Fear dictates the actions you take.
- The more real the threat, the more heroic your actions.
Do you see it!
Fear can be just the tool you need to succeed. Don’t bumble around …
… and consider fear as your weakness towards achieving your goals, and dreams anymore.
All you need to do is stay focused!
Let’s learn how to overcome any sort of fear, by controlling it …
… and use it in your continual growth of your personal development. This will improve your self-esteem and self-confidence.
1) Fear is not something that requires elimination but power that you must learn to manage .
Oftentimes when we experience fear, we focus more on eliminating it than trying to manage it. People that succeed face the same fears as we do. The only difference is that they learn to manage the fear. While we keep on wasting our energy in eliminating them.
2) Realize that the fear can be both Rational or Irrational.
“That little voice inside your head”- you know what I`m talking about. The little voice that keeps “chattering” inside your head while doing anything different than usual. “You can’t do this”, “people will make fun of you” and then we realize, “I shouldn’t do this” or “it`s not the right time”
Improve yourself by shutting down that chattering little annoying voice!
You will be confident about yourself!
There should not be any voice inside you except “I`m the one!
I will do it!
Trying is always worthwhile. The worst that can happen is failure, that`s it!
And what is failure? Only another way of learning how not to do something, so you know the right way the next time…
3) Define your Fear.
If you were to quit your job, what would the next step be? What would you be afraid of? Is there any chance that you won’t find another job? Or you would sit around imagining how in the world am I going to find a new job? Clear you fear and define it. Once you know it, you can handle it. It`s that simple.
4) Make your action Plan.
Overcoming fear is all about crafting your next steps towards handling it. You are afraid of public speaking? Your next move should be to find the opportunity where you can challenge yourself to speak. Engulf yourself in it. Because once you are in the cage of fear, you`ll somehow figure out how to get out of it.
5) Force Yourself.
Force, “defined as the energy you need to do something out of your usual routine”. You don’t take on challenges. They are occasional. If you have a fear of heights, force yourself to climb the highest mountain. Forcing is something your body won’t accept, but your mind will.
So now you have a definition and understanding of fear.
Don’t stop at this first step, take the next step immediately …
… even if it scares you!